Hum, very thoughtful post.
Be Careful What you Wish For. How I lost my wife to the lifestyle.
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Don’t know how you women can handle this. Having sex with your husband, that you love, and desiring someone else.
Isn’t this the same ******* we got on men for. That’s what the whole porn addiction crisis was all about; men having difficulties having sex with their wives because they desired other kind of stimuli.
Desiring a man sexually that you that you have 0 respect for is really difficult. Damn......
Humili18him - I’m really happy you are very cognizant that this lifestyle can be as addictive to crack an addictive white substance. I always say big dick is an addictive white substance, BBC is crack.
Very hard to abide by rules when you are in deep throws of passion. That ******* just ain’t gonna happen.
You are so right . in fact the beginning was super hard getting things mixed up in my head but at the end of the day this was his idea … as im sure it is for almost all these couples. And like this post says " be careful what u wish for". If your trying to push your wife away then this should do it. anad if you are afraid of losing her then for sure don't do this. But there is this small percentage of couples that this actually does help them out or spices it up or whatever... it works for them.. I don't think any couple has done this without a couple bumps in the road. Some swingers pull it off but many of them split up too. Then you have the "faithful" couples... And we all know the odds are against them the most... Someone always strays. Well atleast here in So Cal.
Anyway, Im not trying to change anyones mind and ive said what I wanted to say. I own my ******* always ….and I do offend and I don't sugar coat it... ask and I will answer ...have a great day!!
well said. Each couple has to decide if the juice is worth the squeeze. Can you handle the new reality. This isn’t like a lot of other kinks - your wife is having sex with someone that is superior to you and when you increase the sex with that superior sex human being, your desires will begin to change. Are you ready for that????
I am the wife lol and I was ready for 10 years before I took the plunge.... Now I think if it would have happened when we first started roll playing, then I highly doubt we would still be together today...
You poor sap. You lost your wife and all you think about is black dick. You didn't love her and she knew it, that is why she left you in the dust. That is not something to be turned on by. In this lifestyle the husband and wife come first and foremost. Love and respect. She lost respect for you and you saw it coming and did absolutely nothing. Can't say I blame her at all.(THIS IS A TRUE STORY)
I met my wife when she was in her 20's. She was very mature for her age. I was 10 yrs older than her and divorced and we hit it off right from the start. Like I said she was very mature for her age a hot little thing with a very friendly attitude, she was the life of the party. She was a bit of a pot head, but had a good head on her shoulder. I would later find out that she was a bit adventurous, or slutty what ever you want to call it and by age 18 had already been with 30 guys.
So we dated for like 4 yrs and had one breakup, where she ran off with an X-boyfriend to Jamaica for a week. This is where my feeling of sharing her started I think. All I could think about was her and her younger x-boyfriend fucking her every-night. Like I said this is where I think my desires to share her started. She came back and we eventually got back together and married she was 23-24 by then. I was happy but I still had that fantasy of sharing her. She got lots of attention from men so that help fuel my fantasy at the time. She got pregnant and we had a baby. The fantasy was on hold while she was pregnant. After the baby was born I brought it up again she was against it at first but slowly warmed up to the idea.
By this time she was like 25-26 when she started playing with other men. It included men from a young guy who was 19 to older guy who was in his 50's.
So to elaborate the young guy was not good in bed and it was a one time thing but it broke the ice.
Now the older guy was an interesting scenario he was a 52 yr old business owner that owned a business right next to a part-time job she had. He was friends with the owner of the place that my wife worked, so he frequently would visit. He had money and would often speak to my wife. He let her drive his new corvette one day and shortly after asked her out on a date and she agreed. They went out to dinner and to a strip club then to his home. This guy is middle eastern and had a reputation for being a womanizer. I have to tell you this guy was not attractive at all but had that sort of no bullshit attitude about him. This became a regular thing for a while where he would buy her things in exchange for sex. Now the one thing that really stuck in my mind was that she told me one time that he ripped off his condom and told her don’t worry I wont get you pregnant (she was not on the pill at the time maybe he was fixed). But he came inside her. Something so hot for me to know that an older guy had just cum inside my wife. He was like sugar-daddy type for her. There was something extremely hot for me knowing that in a way she was being used. This went on for a few months.
Next there was a Latin guy she had like a one time thing with and another guy she met thru that same part time job that was also a one or two time thing.
There was also I guy I introduce her to who was older in his 40's but they never really hit it off but I think he did eat her pussy once.
(Oh and I almost forgot thru the old sugar-daddy guy she met the owners of a strip club and they offered her a part-time job at the door. She took the job thought it would be fun. Shortly after they asked her if she wanted to strip in fact they wanted her to. She never agreed she said she didn’t have enough self confidence for that. You know it's funny with no ground rules as we had I never encouraged her to do it. Who knows where that would have led. She only work at the place for like two weeks.)
At this point she decided she wanted to get more career oriented she went for a job working for a governmental agency and got the job. It was a big office that housed many departments and a constant flow of men. There she met this guy we will call him J1 he was married but sort of a ladies men. He sort of had a steady thing with her for like a few months. He would follow her home and they would have a quick fuck. This guy was well hung according to her like 9 inches and she told me once he had a perfect dick. The one thing that stands out about this guy is that one time I came home and she managed to save his condom with his cum still in it. I was inexperienced and had no idea what to do with it. LOL This went on for a few months but she started to feel bad because he was married and she hated being the other woman.
Then something unexpected happen that caught me off guard but was very hot. There came a time that she had a chance to go for a better job with in the same office but working for a contractor for that same office. So she applied for the job and she had to meet with the CEO of the contracting company. He was a black guy in his 40's. This is what stands out to me. She was to meet this guy at a hotel in the restaurant for the interview. I remember that it took a while and I eventually called her she answer and said sorry it's taking so long he is showing me how to negotiate. I thought it was a strange answer but at the time never thought much of it. Later that day when she came home she said that he asked her to come to his room to sign some papers and that she ended up giving him a blow job. ( So I have to stop here and say isn’t this kind of odd? Why would a CEO of a company take a chance like that unless it was expressed in some way. Am I wrong here? She later said that she felt pushed to do it and later that year he came into town and she did it again with him. According to her only a blow job again. This whole scenario seemed strange. I mean not only what I detailed above but why would he only settle for a blow job. I think more happened. Of course I never pushed for an answer because just wanted to continue the ride.)
After this there was a couple of other men but they where mostly a one time thing.
None of the guys knew that I was aware of her playing around. They all thought she was cheating on me. It was easier to find guys that way she did not want to do the bar stranger thing. So at that time I never got to watch. It was her playing on her own and me just hearing the details. This went on for 5 yrs off and on. At this point I thought I had it made a nice family a young sexy hot wife who was all about our family at home and fucking other men outside the home. By the way no one knew about our lifestyle not her family or mine. We kept it all very discreet.
At some point we had the idea that we should get a guy who could be a steady lover for her. A guy that we could both be friends with and I could watch and participate, as well as be a steady lover for her. So this guy at her work who was a work acquaintance that I knew as well just happens to breaks up with his girl friend that open the door. We will call this guy J2. He started talking more to my wife and became a friend of both of us. He would come over the house and I would conveniently go to bed early and take our baby to bed and leave them alone in the living room. That of course led to more.
So we slowly brought him into the lifestyle. I have to tell you he was and may still be a cool dude. Easy to get along with. He was younger than her by 6 years, he was black which was a big fantasy for me and later found out it was a big turn on for her as well. So he starts hanging out as a friend of the family and that’s how everyone saw him. Slowly we get him into the lifestyle. He would come over to our house when our baby was at grandmas and she would go to his place other times. I thought I was in heaven. You guys that have seen the pictures they were so incredibly hot together. I had never seen my wife react like she did to this guy. Again for those that have seen the pictures it was so hot. I have to admit he was in much better shape than I was he had a solid body and the way he fucked her OMG the way he took over her was incredibly hot and shocking in a good way to me. I have to admit however that it did worry me a bit. From the first time I got to watch them together deep down I knew I was in trouble.
With in 2 months it started to get a little out of control he was fucking her 3-4 times a week. She totally started to fall under a spell. That again was exciting but worried me. She even started to be a bit submissive to him. Most of times she was at his place because we had a baby. She would leave work around 5 pm and go to his place and come home many time around midnight. (Again in retrospect probably not a good idea. I was allowing a bond to build. But remember we had no ground rules. I was so into this lifestyle that I would allow anything as long as it fed my kink.)
So by this point I have a young wife and mom that is getting fucked by another man 3-4 times a week and I'm hardly getting any sex at all. She was on the pill so he was cumming inside her sometimes several times a night. If she wouldn’t have been on the pill she would have been pregnant right away as much cum as he was dropping inside her. Keep in mind 3-4 times a week many nights twice a night, that's a whole lot of another mans DNA inside her. I believe this was helping the change in her. Just a theory I have.
(This really fed my fetish at psychological level, to know that another mans DNA was flowing inside my wife's body was like a mental fuck)
In retrospect now it was sort of amazing the way he got into her head and started to turn her.
So I start to see a change in her she starts to become more distant. You know what I mean when you can tell that your no longer one that something is off. That was the first things I notice. I started get less and less sex. Even though that may be the normal progression of a thing like this it started to worry me a bit but also fed into my hunger for this fetish. When she would give me a BJ she would spit me out but she always swallowed him. I asked once why she spit mine out she said your cum taste sour and his taste sweet.
So I went from watching and participating to taking pictures and videos to getting an occasional BJ to getting mostly hand jobs when I would complain.
( So to elaborate when I would complain about not getting any she would tell me come here let me give you some relieve and would jerk me into a towel and then she started to jerk me over the toilet and she knew how to get me off quickly. It was sort of humiliating for her to jerk me over the toilet like my sperm was being thrown away.)
So more and more she finds things to fight about. Just like petty things and I have to admit I would also start some arguments because I could feel her pulling away. She suggested at some point that we go to counseling but I said no like an idiot. Later when I could see we were going to split up I agreed to the counseling but at that point she didn’t want to.
She tells me one day I am addicted to him I cant do without him. Then she said you got us into this lifestyle you opened the door and now I'm in love with him I cant be without him. We separate. She said she was going to her sisters house to try to figure things out but she never stop fucking him during that time and within six months while we are separated but not divorced she got preg by him. I can remember getting the phone call. She said you have a min I have to ask you to please let go thru with the divorce I'm pregnant. I was devastated and turned on at the same time again a very serious head fuck. We divorced like 8 months later she had a big preg belly when we had our court date for the divorce. It was kind of humiliating it was obvious it was not my baby.
So what is the lesson here. This life is dangerous make sure you go into it with eyes wide open.
Be careful of wife having a steady boyfriend with out having any rules.
So I wanted to add this as well.
This is a conversation I had with her about our past not to long ago. I asked her.
ME: So what was the different. We know emotions came after. Was the sex better?
HER: Your right I didn't fall in love right away, but honestly I absolutely enjoyed the sex, I cant say exactly why, it was just so good.
So yes to be honest the sex was better. Sorry.
ME: Was the black thing a turn on for you.
HER: Yes, the black thing was a turn on. Can't explain why I just wanted him all the time.
I don’t know I just like the contrast if our skin together and how aggressive he was in bed. I even felt intimidated when he fucked me sometimes. Turned me on so much.
ME: So you didn't say if you were always attracted to black men?
HER: No not always attracted to black dudes not at all. But you saw us together can you blame me. You have to admit that there was a big difference between you and him.
I'm sorry it just got to the point I couldn't imagine you touching me anymore. You wanted this for me! You wanted me to have a steady lover.
You encouraged us to fuck all the time and he took full advantage of that. I mean you know we were together almost every day and you got off on it. The idea that a black man was fucking your white wife drove you crazy and the way he fucked me drove me crazy. Do you remember? Sorry
he became my main man the only man I thought about. I craved to have him inside me all the time. Sorry you asked me to be honest.
I also asked her this. It was interesting never thought of myself as submissive.
MEid you think of me as submissive in any way? Because in regular life I don't like to be pushed around.
HER: Yeah, I could see you being submissive.
ME: OK wow, submissive how?
HER: I just meant that I could see you enjoying a sexually submissive relationship. I really don't know though. I mean you did give me up to another man right. You allowed him to take me over and over. You saw him cum inside me countless times and you loved it.
Me: Yes
Her: That's pretty submissive!
I was watching him take her away from me and I was hard as a ROCK THRU-IT
That's them below.
The first picture is from a vacation we took all three of us together. He slept with her every night as I slept on the couch.
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This is what I watched so many times. You can tell from the way she is reacting that she is his.
Easygliderpro
Male
Well said, you hit the nail on the head.
I guess there in lies the problem with this lifestyle however the a bull should not be trying to take a wife away from the husband it should be about having fun and great sex for the wife not someone trying to steal the wife(THIS IS A TRUE STORY)
I met my wife when she was in her 20's. She was very mature for her age. I was 10 yrs older than her and divorced and we hit it off right from the start. Like I said she was very mature for her age a hot little thing with a very friendly attitude, she was the life of the party. She was a bit of a pot head, but had a good head on her shoulder. I would later find out that she was a bit adventurous, or slutty what ever you want to call it and by age 18 had already been with 30 guys.
So we dated for like 4 yrs and had one breakup, where she ran off with an X-boyfriend to Jamaica for a week. This is where my feeling of sharing her started I think. All I could think about was her and her younger x-boyfriend fucking her every-night. Like I said this is where I think my desires to share her started. She came back and we eventually got back together and married she was 23-24 by then. I was happy but I still had that fantasy of sharing her. She got lots of attention from men so that help fuel my fantasy at the time. She got pregnant and we had a baby. The fantasy was on hold while she was pregnant. After the baby was born I brought it up again she was against it at first but slowly warmed up to the idea.
By this time she was like 25-26 when she started playing with other men. It included men from a young guy who was 19 to older guy who was in his 50's.
So to elaborate the young guy was not good in bed and it was a one time thing but it broke the ice.
Now the older guy was an interesting scenario he was a 52 yr old business owner that owned a business right next to a part-time job she had. He was friends with the owner of the place that my wife worked, so he frequently would visit. He had money and would often speak to my wife. He let her drive his new corvette one day and shortly after asked her out on a date and she agreed. They went out to dinner and to a strip club then to his home. This guy is middle eastern and had a reputation for being a womanizer. I have to tell you this guy was not attractive at all but had that sort of no bullshit attitude about him. This became a regular thing for a while where he would buy her things in exchange for sex. Now the one thing that really stuck in my mind was that she told me one time that he ripped off his condom and told her don’t worry I wont get you pregnant (she was not on the pill at the time maybe he was fixed). But he came inside her. Something so hot for me to know that an older guy had just cum inside my wife. He was like sugar-daddy type for her. There was something extremely hot for me knowing that in a way she was being used. This went on for a few months.
Next there was a Latin guy she had like a one time thing with and another guy she met thru that same part time job that was also a one or two time thing.
There was also I guy I introduce her to who was older in his 40's but they never really hit it off but I think he did eat her pussy once.
(Oh and I almost forgot thru the old sugar-daddy guy she met the owners of a strip club and they offered her a part-time job at the door. She took the job thought it would be fun. Shortly after they asked her if she wanted to strip in fact they wanted her to. She never agreed she said she didn’t have enough self confidence for that. You know it's funny with no ground rules as we had I never encouraged her to do it. Who knows where that would have led. She only work at the place for like two weeks.)
At this point she decided she wanted to get more career oriented she went for a job working for a governmental agency and got the job. It was a big office that housed many departments and a constant flow of men. There she met this guy we will call him J1 he was married but sort of a ladies men. He sort of had a steady thing with her for like a few months. He would follow her home and they would have a quick fuck. This guy was well hung according to her like 9 inches and she told me once he had a perfect dick. The one thing that stands out about this guy is that one time I came home and she managed to save his condom with his cum still in it. I was inexperienced and had no idea what to do with it. LOL This went on for a few months but she started to feel bad because he was married and she hated being the other woman.
Then something unexpected happen that caught me off guard but was very hot. There came a time that she had a chance to go for a better job with in the same office but working for a contractor for that same office. So she applied for the job and she had to meet with the CEO of the contracting company. He was a black guy in his 40's. This is what stands out to me. She was to meet this guy at a hotel in the restaurant for the interview. I remember that it took a while and I eventually called her she answer and said sorry it's taking so long he is showing me how to negotiate. I thought it was a strange answer but at the time never thought much of it. Later that day when she came home she said that he asked her to come to his room to sign some papers and that she ended up giving him a blow job. ( So I have to stop here and say isn’t this kind of odd? Why would a CEO of a company take a chance like that unless it was expressed in some way. Am I wrong here? She later said that she felt pushed to do it and later that year he came into town and she did it again with him. According to her only a blow job again. This whole scenario seemed strange. I mean not only what I detailed above but why would he only settle for a blow job. I think more happened. Of course I never pushed for an answer because just wanted to continue the ride.)
After this there was a couple of other men but they where mostly a one time thing.
None of the guys knew that I was aware of her playing around. They all thought she was cheating on me. It was easier to find guys that way she did not want to do the bar stranger thing. So at that time I never got to watch. It was her playing on her own and me just hearing the details. This went on for 5 yrs off and on. At this point I thought I had it made a nice family a young sexy hot wife who was all about our family at home and fucking other men outside the home. By the way no one knew about our lifestyle not her family or mine. We kept it all very discreet.
At some point we had the idea that we should get a guy who could be a steady lover for her. A guy that we could both be friends with and I could watch and participate, as well as be a steady lover for her. So this guy at her work who was a work acquaintance that I knew as well just happens to breaks up with his girl friend that open the door. We will call this guy J2. He started talking more to my wife and became a friend of both of us. He would come over the house and I would conveniently go to bed early and take our baby to bed and leave them alone in the living room. That of course led to more.
So we slowly brought him into the lifestyle. I have to tell you he was and may still be a cool dude. Easy to get along with. He was younger than her by 6 years, he was black which was a big fantasy for me and later found out it was a big turn on for her as well. So he starts hanging out as a friend of the family and that’s how everyone saw him. Slowly we get him into the lifestyle. He would come over to our house when our baby was at grandmas and she would go to his place other times. I thought I was in heaven. You guys that have seen the pictures they were so incredibly hot together. I had never seen my wife react like she did to this guy. Again for those that have seen the pictures it was so hot. I have to admit he was in much better shape than I was he had a solid body and the way he fucked her OMG the way he took over her was incredibly hot and shocking in a good way to me. I have to admit however that it did worry me a bit. From the first time I got to watch them together deep down I knew I was in trouble.
With in 2 months it started to get a little out of control he was fucking her 3-4 times a week. She totally started to fall under a spell. That again was exciting but worried me. She even started to be a bit submissive to him. Most of times she was at his place because we had a baby. She would leave work around 5 pm and go to his place and come home many time around midnight. (Again in retrospect probably not a good idea. I was allowing a bond to build. But remember we had no ground rules. I was so into this lifestyle that I would allow anything as long as it fed my kink.)
So by this point I have a young wife and mom that is getting fucked by another man 3-4 times a week and I'm hardly getting any sex at all. She was on the pill so he was cumming inside her sometimes several times a night. If she wouldn’t have been on the pill she would have been pregnant right away as much cum as he was dropping inside her. Keep in mind 3-4 times a week many nights twice a night, that's a whole lot of another mans DNA inside her. I believe this was helping the change in her. Just a theory I have.
(This really fed my fetish at psychological level, to know that another mans DNA was flowing inside my wife's body was like a mental fuck)
In retrospect now it was sort of amazing the way he got into her head and started to turn her.
So I start to see a change in her she starts to become more distant. You know what I mean when you can tell that your no longer one that something is off. That was the first things I notice. I started get less and less sex. Even though that may be the normal progression of a thing like this it started to worry me a bit but also fed into my hunger for this fetish. When she would give me a BJ she would spit me out but she always swallowed him. I asked once why she spit mine out she said your cum taste sour and his taste sweet.
So I went from watching and participating to taking pictures and videos to getting an occasional BJ to getting mostly hand jobs when I would complain.
( So to elaborate when I would complain about not getting any she would tell me come here let me give you some relieve and would jerk me into a towel and then she started to jerk me over the toilet and she knew how to get me off quickly. It was sort of humiliating for her to jerk me over the toilet like my sperm was being thrown away.)
So more and more she finds things to fight about. Just like petty things and I have to admit I would also start some arguments because I could feel her pulling away. She suggested at some point that we go to counseling but I said no like an idiot. Later when I could see we were going to split up I agreed to the counseling but at that point she didn’t want to.
She tells me one day I am addicted to him I cant do without him. Then she said you got us into this lifestyle you opened the door and now I'm in love with him I cant be without him. We separate. She said she was going to her sisters house to try to figure things out but she never stop fucking him during that time and within six months while we are separated but not divorced she got preg by him. I can remember getting the phone call. She said you have a min I have to ask you to please let go thru with the divorce I'm pregnant. I was devastated and turned on at the same time again a very serious head fuck. We divorced like 8 months later she had a big preg belly when we had our court date for the divorce. It was kind of humiliating it was obvious it was not my baby.
So what is the lesson here. This life is dangerous make sure you go into it with eyes wide open.
Be careful of wife having a steady boyfriend with out having any rules.
So I wanted to add this as well.
This is a conversation I had with her about our past not to long ago. I asked her.
ME: So what was the different. We know emotions came after. Was the sex better?
HER: Your right I didn't fall in love right away, but honestly I absolutely enjoyed the sex, I cant say exactly why, it was just so good.
So yes to be honest the sex was better. Sorry.
ME: Was the black thing a turn on for you.
HER: Yes, the black thing was a turn on. Can't explain why I just wanted him all the time.
I don’t know I just like the contrast if our skin together and how aggressive he was in bed. I even felt intimidated when he fucked me sometimes. Turned me on so much.
ME: So you didn't say if you were always attracted to black men?
HER: No not always attracted to black dudes not at all. But you saw us together can you blame me. You have to admit that there was a big difference between you and him.
I'm sorry it just got to the point I couldn't imagine you touching me anymore. You wanted this for me! You wanted me to have a steady lover.
You encouraged us to fuck all the time and he took full advantage of that. I mean you know we were together almost every day and you got off on it. The idea that a black man was fucking your white wife drove you crazy and the way he fucked me drove me crazy. Do you remember? Sorry
he became my main man the only man I thought about. I craved to have him inside me all the time. Sorry you asked me to be honest.
I also asked her this. It was interesting never thought of myself as submissive.
ME
HER: Yeah, I could see you being submissive.
ME: OK wow, submissive how?
HER: I just meant that I could see you enjoying a sexually submissive relationship. I really don't know though. I mean you did give me up to another man right. You allowed him to take me over and over. You saw him cum inside me countless times and you loved it.
Me: Yes
Her: That's pretty submissive!
I was watching him take her away from me and I was hard as a ROCK THRU-IT
That's them below.
The first picture is from a vacation we took all three of us together. He slept with her every night as I slept on the couch.
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This is what I watched so many times. You can tell from the way she is reacting that she is his.
I will also add I could not imagine losing my wife over this fetish and what I want her to experience that would not be the path I I would choose
Easygliderpro
Male
Who said or promised anyone if you go to a casino to play, you won’t lose?
Don’t gamble with your life, because she is your wife, for the sake of fun.
If you play, you will pay..
Don’t gamble with your life, because she is your wife, for the sake of fun.
If you play, you will pay..
Very insightful and thanks for sharing. It gives another look at the dynamics surrounding this lifestyle. I have heard of similar situations and believe that it is important to set ground rules and boundaries with not only the wife, but the BULL being brought into your marital bedroom. Especially when you are converting a new BULL to this lifestyle. Most seasoned BULLS enjoy the sex and the ability to have sex with a variety of Hot Wives that the mere thought of settling down with one is out of the question. Even having the pillow talk after her playing is important to reconnect and definitely you being able to reclaim her sexually. Although, that is another form of domination and submission. You were dominated by her because she was allowed to dictate how and when she would allow some sort of sexual interaction.(THIS IS A TRUE STORY)
I met my wife when she was in her 20's. She was very mature for her age. I was 10 yrs older than her and divorced and we hit it off right from the start. Like I said she was very mature for her age a hot little thing with a very friendly attitude, she was the life of the party. She was a bit of a pot head, but had a good head on her shoulder. I would later find out that she was a bit adventurous, or slutty what ever you want to call it and by age 18 had already been with 30 guys.
So we dated for like 4 yrs and had one breakup, where she ran off with an X-boyfriend to Jamaica for a week. This is where my feeling of sharing her started I think. All I could think about was her and her younger x-boyfriend fucking her every-night. Like I said this is where I think my desires to share her started. She came back and we eventually got back together and married she was 23-24 by then. I was happy but I still had that fantasy of sharing her. She got lots of attention from men so that help fuel my fantasy at the time. She got pregnant and we had a baby. The fantasy was on hold while she was pregnant. After the baby was born I brought it up again she was against it at first but slowly warmed up to the idea.
By this time she was like 25-26 when she started playing with other men. It included men from a young guy who was 19 to older guy who was in his 50's.
So to elaborate the young guy was not good in bed and it was a one time thing but it broke the ice.
Now the older guy was an interesting scenario he was a 52 yr old business owner that owned a business right next to a part-time job she had. He was friends with the owner of the place that my wife worked, so he frequently would visit. He had money and would often speak to my wife. He let her drive his new corvette one day and shortly after asked her out on a date and she agreed. They went out to dinner and to a strip club then to his home. This guy is middle eastern and had a reputation for being a womanizer. I have to tell you this guy was not attractive at all but had that sort of no bullshit attitude about him. This became a regular thing for a while where he would buy her things in exchange for sex. Now the one thing that really stuck in my mind was that she told me one time that he ripped off his condom and told her don’t worry I wont get you pregnant (she was not on the pill at the time maybe he was fixed). But he came inside her. Something so hot for me to know that an older guy had just cum inside my wife. He was like sugar-daddy type for her. There was something extremely hot for me knowing that in a way she was being used. This went on for a few months.
Next there was a Latin guy she had like a one time thing with and another guy she met thru that same part time job that was also a one or two time thing.
There was also I guy I introduce her to who was older in his 40's but they never really hit it off but I think he did eat her pussy once.
(Oh and I almost forgot thru the old sugar-daddy guy she met the owners of a strip club and they offered her a part-time job at the door. She took the job thought it would be fun. Shortly after they asked her if she wanted to strip in fact they wanted her to. She never agreed she said she didn’t have enough self confidence for that. You know it's funny with no ground rules as we had I never encouraged her to do it. Who knows where that would have led. She only work at the place for like two weeks.)
At this point she decided she wanted to get more career oriented she went for a job working for a governmental agency and got the job. It was a big office that housed many departments and a constant flow of men. There she met this guy we will call him J1 he was married but sort of a ladies men. He sort of had a steady thing with her for like a few months. He would follow her home and they would have a quick fuck. This guy was well hung according to her like 9 inches and she told me once he had a perfect dick. The one thing that stands out about this guy is that one time I came home and she managed to save his condom with his cum still in it. I was inexperienced and had no idea what to do with it. LOL This went on for a few months but she started to feel bad because he was married and she hated being the other woman.
Then something unexpected happen that caught me off guard but was very hot. There came a time that she had a chance to go for a better job with in the same office but working for a contractor for that same office. So she applied for the job and she had to meet with the CEO of the contracting company. He was a black guy in his 40's. This is what stands out to me. She was to meet this guy at a hotel in the restaurant for the interview. I remember that it took a while and I eventually called her she answer and said sorry it's taking so long he is showing me how to negotiate. I thought it was a strange answer but at the time never thought much of it. Later that day when she came home she said that he asked her to come to his room to sign some papers and that she ended up giving him a blow job. ( So I have to stop here and say isn’t this kind of odd? Why would a CEO of a company take a chance like that unless it was expressed in some way. Am I wrong here? She later said that she felt pushed to do it and later that year he came into town and she did it again with him. According to her only a blow job again. This whole scenario seemed strange. I mean not only what I detailed above but why would he only settle for a blow job. I think more happened. Of course I never pushed for an answer because just wanted to continue the ride.)
After this there was a couple of other men but they where mostly a one time thing.
None of the guys knew that I was aware of her playing around. They all thought she was cheating on me. It was easier to find guys that way she did not want to do the bar stranger thing. So at that time I never got to watch. It was her playing on her own and me just hearing the details. This went on for 5 yrs off and on. At this point I thought I had it made a nice family a young sexy hot wife who was all about our family at home and fucking other men outside the home. By the way no one knew about our lifestyle not her family or mine. We kept it all very discreet.
At some point we had the idea that we should get a guy who could be a steady lover for her. A guy that we could both be friends with and I could watch and participate, as well as be a steady lover for her. So this guy at her work who was a work acquaintance that I knew as well just happens to breaks up with his girl friend that open the door. We will call this guy J2. He started talking more to my wife and became a friend of both of us. He would come over the house and I would conveniently go to bed early and take our baby to bed and leave them alone in the living room. That of course led to more.
So we slowly brought him into the lifestyle. I have to tell you he was and may still be a cool dude. Easy to get along with. He was younger than her by 6 years, he was black which was a big fantasy for me and later found out it was a big turn on for her as well. So he starts hanging out as a friend of the family and that’s how everyone saw him. Slowly we get him into the lifestyle. He would come over to our house when our baby was at grandmas and she would go to his place other times. I thought I was in heaven. You guys that have seen the pictures they were so incredibly hot together. I had never seen my wife react like she did to this guy. Again for those that have seen the pictures it was so hot. I have to admit he was in much better shape than I was he had a solid body and the way he fucked her OMG the way he took over her was incredibly hot and shocking in a good way to me. I have to admit however that it did worry me a bit. From the first time I got to watch them together deep down I knew I was in trouble.
With in 2 months it started to get a little out of control he was fucking her 3-4 times a week. She totally started to fall under a spell. That again was exciting but worried me. She even started to be a bit submissive to him. Most of times she was at his place because we had a baby. She would leave work around 5 pm and go to his place and come home many time around midnight. (Again in retrospect probably not a good idea. I was allowing a bond to build. But remember we had no ground rules. I was so into this lifestyle that I would allow anything as long as it fed my kink.)
So by this point I have a young wife and mom that is getting fucked by another man 3-4 times a week and I'm hardly getting any sex at all. She was on the pill so he was cumming inside her sometimes several times a night. If she wouldn’t have been on the pill she would have been pregnant right away as much cum as he was dropping inside her. Keep in mind 3-4 times a week many nights twice a night, that's a whole lot of another mans DNA inside her. I believe this was helping the change in her. Just a theory I have.
(This really fed my fetish at psychological level, to know that another mans DNA was flowing inside my wife's body was like a mental fuck)
In retrospect now it was sort of amazing the way he got into her head and started to turn her.
So I start to see a change in her she starts to become more distant. You know what I mean when you can tell that your no longer one that something is off. That was the first things I notice. I started get less and less sex. Even though that may be the normal progression of a thing like this it started to worry me a bit but also fed into my hunger for this fetish. When she would give me a BJ she would spit me out but she always swallowed him. I asked once why she spit mine out she said your cum taste sour and his taste sweet.
So I went from watching and participating to taking pictures and videos to getting an occasional BJ to getting mostly hand jobs when I would complain.
( So to elaborate when I would complain about not getting any she would tell me come here let me give you some relieve and would jerk me into a towel and then she started to jerk me over the toilet and she knew how to get me off quickly. It was sort of humiliating for her to jerk me over the toilet like my sperm was being thrown away.)
So more and more she finds things to fight about. Just like petty things and I have to admit I would also start some arguments because I could feel her pulling away. She suggested at some point that we go to counseling but I said no like an idiot. Later when I could see we were going to split up I agreed to the counseling but at that point she didn’t want to.
She tells me one day I am addicted to him I cant do without him. Then she said you got us into this lifestyle you opened the door and now I'm in love with him I cant be without him. We separate. She said she was going to her sisters house to try to figure things out but she never stop fucking him during that time and within six months while we are separated but not divorced she got preg by him. I can remember getting the phone call. She said you have a min I have to ask you to please let go thru with the divorce I'm pregnant. I was devastated and turned on at the same time again a very serious head fuck. We divorced like 8 months later she had a big preg belly when we had our court date for the divorce. It was kind of humiliating it was obvious it was not my baby.
So what is the lesson here. This life is dangerous make sure you go into it with eyes wide open.
Be careful of wife having a steady boyfriend with out having any rules.
So I wanted to add this as well.
This is a conversation I had with her about our past not to long ago. I asked her.
ME: So what was the different. We know emotions came after. Was the sex better?
HER: Your right I didn't fall in love right away, but honestly I absolutely enjoyed the sex, I cant say exactly why, it was just so good.
So yes to be honest the sex was better. Sorry.
ME: Was the black thing a turn on for you.
HER: Yes, the black thing was a turn on. Can't explain why I just wanted him all the time.
I don’t know I just like the contrast if our skin together and how aggressive he was in bed. I even felt intimidated when he fucked me sometimes. Turned me on so much.
ME: So you didn't say if you were always attracted to black men?
HER: No not always attracted to black dudes not at all. But you saw us together can you blame me. You have to admit that there was a big difference between you and him.
I'm sorry it just got to the point I couldn't imagine you touching me anymore. You wanted this for me! You wanted me to have a steady lover.
You encouraged us to fuck all the time and he took full advantage of that. I mean you know we were together almost every day and you got off on it. The idea that a black man was fucking your white wife drove you crazy and the way he fucked me drove me crazy. Do you remember? Sorry
he became my main man the only man I thought about. I craved to have him inside me all the time. Sorry you asked me to be honest.
I also asked her this. It was interesting never thought of myself as submissive.
ME
HER: Yeah, I could see you being submissive.
ME: OK wow, submissive how?
HER: I just meant that I could see you enjoying a sexually submissive relationship. I really don't know though. I mean you did give me up to another man right. You allowed him to take me over and over. You saw him cum inside me countless times and you loved it.
Me: Yes
Her: That's pretty submissive!
I was watching him take her away from me and I was hard as a ROCK THRU-IT
That's them below.
The first picture is from a vacation we took all three of us together. He slept with her every night as I slept on the couch.
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This is what I watched so many times. You can tell from the way she is reacting that she is his.
I know initially that a lot of women mistake LOVE for GOOD DICK and get caught up in the world wind of sexual ******* which is why it's important to establish ground rules and really communicate with each other before venturing down this sexual path. I know you have been beating yourself up regarding the rules, kicking yourself in the butt for not addressing the subtle changes in her behavior and replaying your story countless times and I won't add to that. LIVING AND LEARNING critical. Learn from this lesson and by sharing you allow others to also learn from your life lesson as well.
I personally try and keep everyone on the same page because as I stated, most seasoned BULLS only want to enjoy the fun sexy Hot Wife and once we are done, send her back home to you. Most aren't interested in the regular WIFE because the variety and the hunt is so much of a driving ******* for the BULLS in the lifestyle. It's a BULLS role to have sex with all the COWS (In a BREEDING LIVESTOCK WORLD) and the last thing a BULL wants is to be responsible for one COW all the time. At least that is my mindset.
While I agree with you a 100% - I don't think we can blame the Bull when he is handed such a lovely sweet prise on a sliver platter! The Bull knew he could take advantage of such a prise and did! If I were him ( the BBC Bull) I probably would have done the same! Why not! We really can't talk to much on Morals without being called hypocrites here!
Kyra4Blacks
Female
One of my girlfriends in high school, her dad ended up leaving after her mom got controlled by a black man.
It certainly can happen! I know I have read a few stories similar. I think that possibility lurks in our heads as husbands and BFs! Better have a ROCK solid relationship but still there is always that possibility our women/ wives/ GFs could jump ship and get addicted to the BBC! WW888
Kyra4Blacks
Female
For sure! They just wanted to spice up their marriage, give bbc a try. The black man just sort of took over every time he was there, my gf told me. That turned her mom on more and more but her dad got tired of it.
Too bad it turned out that way! We as husbands and BFs have to have built in security measures to insulate our wife's and GFs from the Blackman. Example: no contact with her unless it's true us and never invite to your home! As a matter of fact that's why my wife broke it off with a BBC friend of mine. He started making unannounced visits to our home with almost stalker like results. Fortunately we moved to another town due to our jobs and she pulled the plug on His benefits!
If you want my accounting of the full story search for ( Becky's first BBC) written by me! 
WW888
They are but as well as a warning your story is both intriguing and arousing. My wife has had a few black guys regular but only one was really standout and I saw them bonding together. They have talked again and I’m pretty sure that if things happened your story might repeat itself. Like you though I get off immensely at what I see so to hell with the consequences. Nothing is written.
sorry to hear that
The couples relationship is the most important aspect of Sharing your wife or girlfriend. In my experience most men want the "Happy Wife " and aren't interested in being involved with the day to relationship situations that come with a girlfriend or marriage. Which is why this lifestyle is so appealing to single men.
There can be finger pointing at the single male about him trying to take a Wife away from her husband, but the most important aspect in Wife Sharing is the marital relationship and keeping that together. That starts with communication with each other, communication with the single male and communication between the couple some more.
The single make is being brought into the situation for sex, new sexual experiences and all the fun surrounding the sex. When sex is confused with love that's when you have to regroup and change things.
TJ
There can be finger pointing at the single male about him trying to take a Wife away from her husband, but the most important aspect in Wife Sharing is the marital relationship and keeping that together. That starts with communication with each other, communication with the single male and communication between the couple some more.
The single make is being brought into the situation for sex, new sexual experiences and all the fun surrounding the sex. When sex is confused with love that's when you have to regroup and change things.
TJ
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