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Hi Folks,
I'm Em. Been a member with my hubby here for some time, but just set up my own account.
I'm 29, fit, and been shared by my hubby Jay for the past 9 years. I have two black daddies who fuck me 2-3 times per month, leaving me in puddles of *******. Jay is white and he supports me enthusiastically.
I think every woman needs at least two men in their life: One to pamper her, worship her, and treat her like a princess. Another to rule her, dominate her, tie her up, spank her, ******* her, and fuck her brains out. I do mean "need" -- I think when a woman lacks one or the other, she feels unsatisfied, anxious, and unbalanced. I know I do. I'm so lucky to have my dom daddies and my husband in my life.
I love helping newbies get into the lifestyle and I'm happy to share advice whenever I can based on my experiences. To me, the lifestyle takes hard work, but it's INCREDIBLY fulfilling -- full of pleasure, passion, intensity, and love. I hope more people give it a try and I'm here to encourage, support, and answer questions for those who are curious.
I'm not interested in meeting single men here. Between my black daddies and my husband (plus regular doses of porn and my big black dildos, lol) all my needs are VERY WELL taken care of.
Ask Me Anything!
 
Well then, there's clearly 3 paths to pursue here...

1. keep talking with him about it, while also consistently reassuring him that you love him and will never leave him, but that this is a sexual longing that you really need satisfied. hope that he comes around.
2. accept that this is never going to happen, and try to be happy with what you have
3. cheat

Some hubbys do come around after time with #1. I've seen it happen.
So far, I haven't met a woman who can stick with #2. But then, I do associate with a bunch of kinky, horny, girls, lol.
I'm not an advocate of cheating, but if you've tried #1 for a long time (years) and its going nowhere then it may be your only option. I believe we all deserve to life our fullest life. Hopefully, we find a partner who is willing and able to help us along that path. But if not, we may have to take responsibility for our own lives and our own satisfaction.
 
I think every woman needs at least two men in their life: One to pamper her, worship her, and treat her like a princess. Another to rule her, dominate her, tie her up, spank her, ******* her, and fuck her brains out. I do mean "need" -- I think when a woman lacks one or the other, she feels unsatisfied, anxious, and unbalanced.

Seems like sound advice and the voice of experience. I'm in a rather new relationship (5 mo) and she has a much higher sex drive than I do. I'd like for her to have a second man. It's not that I'm not crazy about her, but I am not well endowed and it may be causing some lack of pleasure for her. I can sense her dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment. I'm going to use your point No. 1 to gently introduce her to your way of seeing things. Yesterday I got us a penis extension (in black, my idea) she got excited when she saw it and were going to try it today. Hopefully in time we can step through the door of more balance and less anxiousness for her by way of having a second man to give her what seems to be lacking. Thank you for sharing your experience.
 
I think every woman needs at least two men in their life: One to pamper her, worship her, and treat her like a princess. Another to rule her, dominate her, tie her up, spank her, ******* her, and fuck her brains out. I do mean "need" -- I think when a woman lacks one or the other, she feels unsatisfied, anxious, and unbalanced.

Seems like sound advice and the voice of experience. I'm in a rather new relationship (5 mo) and she has a much higher sex drive than I do. I'd like for her to have a second man. It's not that I'm not crazy about her, but I am not well endowed and it may be causing some lack of pleasure for her. I can sense her dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment. I'm going to use your point No. 1 to gently introduce her to your way of seeing things. Yesterday I got us a penis extension (in black, my idea) she got excited when she saw it and were going to try it today. Hopefully in time we can step through the door of more balance and less anxiousness for her by way of having a second man to give her what seems to be lacking. Thank you for sharing your experience.

In addition to IR porn and using your extension, I would suggest being a bit more honest and direct (versus "gentle") about your desires. Perhaps something like...

"One of my biggest turn-ons is imagining you cumming with a hung black stud. I would love to see you experiencing that kind of extreme pleasure. And, I think it would bring us closer together because we’d share a very naughty, secret experience. A lot of couples do it. But if you don't want to do it, I understand, and we don't have to. You should also know: My fantasy is to see you with a black man, or as many black men as you desire, but I would never want to be with any other woman except you. I love you and I'm devoted to you and your pleasure.

I explain the rationale for being honest and direct here...
https://xhamster.com/posts/832174
 
Wow! Am I ever grateful I found you and this thread. I followed the xhamster link and that vid is just smoking hot! I'm on my way to her place soon, and when I get going with the black cock extension I'm going to do as you suggest. Very excited and thanks so much. You are AWESOME.
 
Wow! Am I ever grateful I found you and this thread. I followed the xhamster link and that vid is just smoking hot! I'm on my way to her place soon, and when I get going with the black cock extension I'm going to do as you suggest. Very excited and thanks so much. You are AWESOME.

Happy to be of help. Good luck, and please lmk how it goes!
 
In addition to IR porn and using your extension, I would suggest being a bit more honest and direct (versus "gentle") about your desires. Perhaps something like...

"One of my biggest turn-ons is imagining you cumming with a hung black stud. I would love to see you experiencing that kind of extreme pleasure. And, I think it would bring us closer together because we’d share a very naughty, secret experience. A lot of couples do it. But if you don't want to do it, I understand, and we don't have to. You should also know: My fantasy is to see you with a black man, or as many black men as you desire, but I would never want to be with any other woman except you. I love you and I'm devoted to you and your pleasure.

I explain the rationale for being honest and direct here...
https://xhamster.com/posts/832174
Love this - thank you for sharing!
 
Hi EM,

To follow up on using your advice, as I mentioned earlier, I had bought a black penis extension on Friday and went to my red-haired, blue eyed former model gf’s place about 5 pm with the anticipation of trying it out. I knew she had some out of town company on the way but they weren’t expected until around 10:00 PM so I thought we would have plenty of time to play. Unfortunately just after I arrived they called to say they would be there within the hour, so no joy as far as Friday night went. The silver lining turned out to be that after I left and everyone went to bed she got the big black toy out and played with it, and Saturday I found you and your thread.

Saturday I got back to her place again around 5 and her eyes where just sparking with the thought of what was to come. First I put leather ankle and wrist restraints on her which made a nice jingling sound as she made us a light dinner and she had a ******* of tequila and mixer. After dinner I made things a nice steady tease up until I led her her into the bedroom, had her bend over the bed and slowly worked steadily larger and larger butt plugs in her ass and teased her pussy with a vibrator. After getting the final and largest size in I took her into the living room and fastened one end of a pair of handcuffs to the railing at the end of her couch..her pussy was just dripping wet by the time I started to lock her wrist to the end of the couch arm (this way she would be bent over at the waist with her hands braced against the end of the couch). I had been hard all night long the night before in anticipation of strapping on that black dildo and fucking her with it. Seriously, it brought to mind that Viagra commercial, “ If you have an erection lasting more than 4 hours contact your Doctor immediately.” So, after all the build up, my cocks as hard as a rock, her pussy is dripping…. the phone rings. It’s her ******* and he’s on the way over with another young man she helped raise. *******! I know she hasn’t seen either of them in a long while, so why fight it? We take the gear off, the ******* come over. and their great. More people turn up and it becomes a little party. Donna’s sitting across from me with no panties on and flashing me from time to time. By the time it's over we’re both tired so we lay down, but my dick gets rock hard again so….we get a second wind, I lock her wrists to the couch, put on the black penis extension and slide into her (again) dripping wet pussy.

I already had the xhamster vid loaded on the phone so I laid that down on the couch in front of her and start it up. (She’s locked to the couch so she really can’t look away). As I’m fucking her with the black cock extension she going wild on it. I’m telling her how good the black cock looks going in and out of her, how much I like seeing a black cock pleasing her, and how much she deserves to have big black cock please her. All the while she’s thrusting back on the strapon like she can’t get enough. When I tell her she’s the only girl I want and how much I want to see her pleased with big black dick she drops to her knees from orgasm, just moaning and thrusting while the video is playing in front of her, and I just keep pounding her pussy as she has wave after wave of orgasm.

I keep fucking her relentlessly and the video just keeps going.. I’m telling her how good black cock looks in her, how much I want to see her getting her pussy pounded by a big black cock, and why she’s the only girl I want, until she just can’t even stay on her feet anymore she’s cum so many times.

At this point I unlock the handcuffs, lay her down on the couch, lube up the black dildo and slide it in as I get on top of her and starting in on her pussy with it again. My mouth is right next to her ear, so I’m making her tell how good the black dildo feels and how much she likes it. She can barely gasp it out she in such *******.

At this point we’re both dripping in sweat so I ease off her and give her a ******* of water. I’ve almost cum inside the extension a couple of times so I start teasing her about how much she needed a big cock and does she want my little cock back inside her and she nods yes. So then I say to her, “ Tell me which cock you want. The big one or my little one?” She says “Yours.” So I make her say, “ Tell me you want my little dick.” I can tell she struggling not to say I have a little dick, and I’m just enjoying watching her, so I keep prompting her until she says “ The little one.” I can hardly keep from laughing as I take off the black cock extension. I slid my 4” dick into her and it’s so loose and wet from being fucked by the big extension, I almost cum right away from the feeling. I tell her how good her pussy feels after being stretched out and how much I like it, and she cums again. After a while I pull out and we both fall asleep curled up together.

She still had the leather wrist cuffs on when we woke up this morning. I made her keep them on most of the day and she liked it. She didn’t put the chastity device on me before I left because we were both a little sore, so we agreed to get back to that later. All in all it was a great night. The only point I saw her get emphatic was when I suggested she’d thought of having a black cock before, which she denied. But whatever, even if that’s true, that's changed now. I don’t believe she’s ready to have a black mans big bull dick in her...yet. But I did warn her I’d be getting a bigger black extension. And she just grinned. I’m going to keep working away at her, there’s really no hurry, but I think in time she will be cumming on a black mans cock for real.

Your advice was put to good use EM, and I believe made all the difference. Couldn’t have done it without you doll! Thanks so much!
 
The experience continues.

Last night after I got home from work I showered up and put on the new brown strap on and laid down on the bed. I knew the gf would be curious in no time and come into the bedroom to see if it was time for sex (she wants it everyday). Her eyes got big when she saw me wearing the brown cock extension. I said " Say Hello to our bigger friend." She laid down with me and said " I don't know if I can take that." in kinda of a high pitched playful voice. We kissed for a long time, then she rolled off me and I put a generous amount of lube on the cock extension and she got back on top. We kissed long and deep as she slowly began to work the big brown strap on cock extension into her pussy, moaning all the while. I could feel the extension sliding deeper over my cock as she worked herself down. She whispered "hurts" but didn't stop sliding down on it deeper and deeper. Her moans became faster and louder the deeper it slid into her pussy..

When she was at last down all the way I let her set the pace. She rocked back and forth on it with it deep in her pussy while I whispered how hot and sexy it was to see that big brown cock against her white skin, and how much it turned me on to see it sliding in and out of her pussy, how good her pussy felt after having that big cock in it. The more I whispered to her how much I liked blown cock in her the more she came and came. When I told her how hot it would be for me to be in chastity while watching a black mans cock please her pussy, how I would eat her pussy while she rode my face after having his dick in her, she came like a madwoman, moaning, thrusting, and grinding down harder and harder on the strapon, and I almost came inside of it.

After about 30 minutes of riding that black dildo she rolled off it, clearly AFO (All Fucked Out). After passing out for about ten minutes I got up while she slept and I cleaned up. When she got out of the bed she was moving slowly from having her pussy pounded and stretched. The rest of the evening I could tell she was still feeling the effects. For the first time she admitted "Maybe I do need a day or two off (sex)" It was all I could do to keep from laughing. We had had sex the night before with just my 4" cock and no toys or extension and her reaction was definitely not as a strong, and I don't think she came at all. Having a bigger dick inside her returns a markedly different reaction. She came four times at least with big brown dick, and making her cum is part of the mission.

We haven't had the conversation about bringing in a bull for her pussy. But I can see it coming soon.
 
(...)
I think every woman needs at least two men in their life: One to pamper her, worship her, and treat her like a princess. Another to rule her, dominate her, tie her up, spank her, ******* her, and fuck her brains out. (...)
:dance:
One to make her happy,
One to make her sad,
One to give her good love
That she never had...
:dance:
(...)Between my black daddies and my husband (plus regular doses of porn and my big black dildos, lol) all my needs are VERY WELL taken care of.(...)
:happy:

Congrats! :)
 
Hi EM,

To follow up on using your advice, as I mentioned earlier, I had bought a black penis extension on Friday and went to my red-haired, blue eyed former model gf’s place about 5 pm with the anticipation of trying it out. I knew she had some out of town company on the way but they weren’t expected until around 10:00 PM so I thought we would have plenty of time to play. Unfortunately just after I arrived they called to say they would be there within the hour, so no joy as far as Friday night went. The silver lining turned out to be that after I left and everyone went to bed she got the big black toy out and played with it, and Saturday I found you and your thread.

Saturday I got back to her place again around 5 and her eyes where just sparking with the thought of what was to come. First I put leather ankle and wrist restraints on her which made a nice jingling sound as she made us a light dinner and she had a ******* of tequila and mixer. After dinner I made things a nice steady tease up until I led her her into the bedroom, had her bend over the bed and slowly worked steadily larger and larger butt plugs in her ass and teased her pussy with a vibrator. After getting the final and largest size in I took her into the living room and fastened one end of a pair of handcuffs to the railing at the end of her couch..her pussy was just dripping wet by the time I started to lock her wrist to the end of the couch arm (this way she would be bent over at the waist with her hands braced against the end of the couch). I had been hard all night long the night before in anticipation of strapping on that black dildo and fucking her with it. Seriously, it brought to mind that Viagra commercial, “ If you have an erection lasting more than 4 hours contact your Doctor immediately.” So, after all the build up, my cocks as hard as a rock, her pussy is dripping…. the phone rings. It’s her ******* and he’s on the way over with another young man she helped raise. *******! I know she hasn’t seen either of them in a long while, so why fight it? We take the gear off, the ******* come over. and their great. More people turn up and it becomes a little party. Donna’s sitting across from me with no panties on and flashing me from time to time. By the time it's over we’re both tired so we lay down, but my dick gets rock hard again so….we get a second wind, I lock her wrists to the couch, put on the black penis extension and slide into her (again) dripping wet pussy.

I already had the xhamster vid loaded on the phone so I laid that down on the couch in front of her and start it up. (She’s locked to the couch so she really can’t look away). As I’m fucking her with the black cock extension she going wild on it. I’m telling her how good the black cock looks going in and out of her, how much I like seeing a black cock pleasing her, and how much she deserves to have big black cock please her. All the while she’s thrusting back on the strapon like she can’t get enough. When I tell her she’s the only girl I want and how much I want to see her pleased with big black dick she drops to her knees from orgasm, just moaning and thrusting while the video is playing in front of her, and I just keep pounding her pussy as she has wave after wave of orgasm.

I keep fucking her relentlessly and the video just keeps going.. I’m telling her how good black cock looks in her, how much I want to see her getting her pussy pounded by a big black cock, and why she’s the only girl I want, until she just can’t even stay on her feet anymore she’s cum so many times.

At this point I unlock the handcuffs, lay her down on the couch, lube up the black dildo and slide it in as I get on top of her and starting in on her pussy with it again. My mouth is right next to her ear, so I’m making her tell how good the black dildo feels and how much she likes it. She can barely gasp it out she in such *******.

At this point we’re both dripping in sweat so I ease off her and give her a ******* of water. I’ve almost cum inside the extension a couple of times so I start teasing her about how much she needed a big cock and does she want my little cock back inside her and she nods yes. So then I say to her, “ Tell me which cock you want. The big one or my little one?” She says “Yours.” So I make her say, “ Tell me you want my little dick.” I can tell she struggling not to say I have a little dick, and I’m just enjoying watching her, so I keep prompting her until she says “ The little one.” I can hardly keep from laughing as I take off the black cock extension. I slid my 4” dick into her and it’s so loose and wet from being fucked by the big extension, I almost cum right away from the feeling. I tell her how good her pussy feels after being stretched out and how much I like it, and she cums again. After a while I pull out and we both fall asleep curled up together.

She still had the leather wrist cuffs on when we woke up this morning. I made her keep them on most of the day and she liked it. She didn’t put the chastity device on me before I left because we were both a little sore, so we agreed to get back to that later. All in all it was a great night. The only point I saw her get emphatic was when I suggested she’d thought of having a black cock before, which she denied. But whatever, even if that’s true, that's changed now. I don’t believe she’s ready to have a black mans big bull dick in her...yet. But I did warn her I’d be getting a bigger black extension. And she just grinned. I’m going to keep working away at her, there’s really no hurry, but I think in time she will be cumming on a black mans cock for real.

Your advice was put to good use EM, and I believe made all the difference. Couldn’t have done it without you doll! Thanks so much!
That is very hot!
 
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