Any other cucks notice decrease in size & ability

Discussion in 'Cuckold Forum' started by Bellaazz, Jan 30, 2015.

  1. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I was wondering if any other cucks have experienced what I notice about myself. Since I have been a cuckold, I have actually notice a large decrease in sexual ability and even in the size of my already small penis. I figure some must be attributable to age but it seems to have gone beyond that. I used to be able to at least get hard and fuck my wife for a minute or so before cumming however now on the rare occasions she wants sex from me, it seems to take me longer to get hard and I will either cum before I even get hard, or if I get hard, I will most often cum before I am even totally inside her or on the now rare times I actually make it inside her, I will cum almost instantly, certainly within 5 seconds. This is very frustrating to her, as if I did not frustrate her enough already. I do seem to be able to achieve a full erection when I am eating her pussy (which I just love) or watching her being fucked by her bull (which I also love). I am not sure if I am so nervous or excited to actually be able to have sex with her that I can't control it, if age has something to do with it or what. My penis also used to be small to begin with but now it is absolutely tiny, like I have a little boys penis. I wonder if that is because I have been mentally grown accustomed to being inferior to her bull sexually that my mind actually tells my body my cock isn't needed. I know it sounds strange but I have these thoughts more and more and wonder if anyone else out there experiences similar issues or thoughts. I have been cucked by both my ex-wife and my current wife and even a girlfriend in college before I got married. Appreciate any thoughts.....Thank you
     
  2. jessicasubtv

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    Yes I think its pretty obvious you are becoming a pussy whipped wimp. Use it or lose it! If you can't get it up enough to satisfy her and she has a real man to do the job your mouth can't do what else can you expect. I know all this because I am now an impotent sterile sissy cuckold. Started with just getting my thrills watching my wife with another man. Had no idea I was being psychologically castrated until it was too late.:)
     
  3. DeeDeeinCO

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    When I met my husband, he had the nick name "energizer bunny." He has always been small, but with other women he was some kind of stud. Then he met me.

    Seven out of the eight years that we have been together, we have had men living with us. We have two spare bedrooms and until our current live-in, we have most always had two other men living with us. My husband was super small when I met him, but he had stamina. In the last eight years I know that my husband's penis has shrunk. I know I can't feel him any more, even when we do have intercourse.

    My husband has not been able to obtain or retain a full erection for about three year now. I am just glad that when we decided to let men live with us that they would be my primary lovers and that my husband would be the caboose. When I met my husband, he was almost 4 1/4" long. Now he is maybe 3 1/2" long, and thinner than he used to be. I believe in the old phrase, "use it or lose it," as well.

    Our current live-in . . .
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    who is soft in the pic above, is actually just shy of 12 inches long, and very thick when he is fully erect. He makes my husband look even tinier than he is . . .
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    I am not concerned with my husband's size. I have my live-in for my sexual pleasure. As far as I care, my husband's penis can shrivel up and disappear. I have my live-in, and other men, for sex.
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    Hell, my husband can't get too much smaller, but if he does, I have other men who can please me like he never has been able to.
     

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  4. rocuck

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    I think cuckolds are obsessed with size. Probably too much. Having said that, those of us who are small have a psychological advantage. It goes along with the desire to submit and be cuckolded. I think this is intensified if you cannot get fully erect. That is where supplements, hormones and feminization can help. I do think that if it is not used it will get smaller but I continue to wonder what comes first. The small size or the inability to perform or what?

    I have some questions. First of all Bellaazz are you happy or upset with smaller and softer size? Is your wife happier knowing you are not in the sexual picture? Are those cuckolds with larger size (say 5 inches or above) unhappy with that? Can you really be a good cuckold if you are having actual sex? Do women actually care? Do any of the real men actually care?

    For my part I think that the smaller and softer you are, the better cuckold you can be. There is nothing wrong with couples using the cuckolding as an aid to their own sex life. However, I think there are many who want to fully commit. In that setting the sex is about the women with a black man and total chastity for the husband. The cuckold helps get the couple together and then gets out of the way. That may be too extreme for many but it is the ultimate in the mental aspect. Once you are committed to that I think you may start to shrink. Nature at work as I see it.

    Thanks for this post.
     
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  5. dudesimon78

    dudesimon78 Well-Known Member

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    Hi well I'm not in a cuckold relationship(wish I was) but, I have to say,having been on here and seen the stimulating images of huge black cocks up and white girls in more turned on when I see a white girl, with a black guy (more so when the girl is petite and the guy is taller and muscular.
     
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  6. beenblackened

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    I have my cock will only get hard now when I see my wife and her black lover making love! Other than that I can't get it up any more even if she's naked in front of me and playing with my cock.
     

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  7. Bellaazz

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    Thanks for the response. I guess I am a little obsessed with size now but this is more important now. To answer your question, No, I am not happy with my smaller and softer size. When I first was cuckolded by my ex-wife, it was more of an addition to our sex life. I had a very active and good sex life. It did hit me though when my wife was taken by my neighbor's friend (the first to cuckold me) she told me how much bigger and better than me he was. At that time I thought I was about average size and said this to her and she kind of chuckled and said "honey, its not close to average". Steve is LOT bigger.

    As far as if you can be a good cuckold if you are having actual sex, I guess that is a good question. I feel there are various levels of cuckolds and a more mild one is a husband that does still have sex with his wife on a regular basis but she also has sex with others with his consent. I felt that was me with my current wife but it has been changing and this is when I started noticing my cock shrinkage and sexually ability seriously diminishing. As I am unable to achieve orgasm or even penetrate my wife, she needs more outside sex and I believe it is a cycle now. The more she is with her bull, the worse and smaller I seem to et. I think my wife does care. However it actually strengthens her feelings that she needs more. So I am be becoming more of a cuckold but less of a real man. At least sexually
     
  8. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I have become this way too. Can I ask a question, when she is naked in front of you and playing with your cock, do you cum, even if u can't get hard ?
     
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  9. Bellaazz

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    Dee, thank you so much for your post. I agree with you and it seems you have come to accept his shortcomings. My wife loves my tongue and seems a LOT LOT more concerned with my tongue than my penis, which is why she tells me not to bother with Viagra or Cialis. She doesnt' have live in lovers, we have children, family and other stuff so that this arrangement would be extremely awkward and harmful however she does have a bull or two usually at her disposal when needed.
     
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  10. beenblackened

    beenblackened Moderator Real Person Gold Member

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    Just pre-cum
     
  11. calixto

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    That's not my case. When my wife and me began our relationship, she had finished recently her relationship with her black boyfriend (they had been together during almost 5 years). The fact that a black man had fucked her during so many years turned me on like crazy. I told her about this the first time we had sex. When we were going to make the love over my single bed, I told her it was a great pleasure for me having my dick in the same place that her ex black boyfriend had put his wonderful black cock. Just thinking about the lot of times she was fucked by him, I got a great erection.
    Recently I told her that one of the thing about her that turns me on more, is the fact that she fucked with a black guy.
     
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  12. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    re: decrease in size & ability

    Bellaazz, there is most definitely some validity to your observations and concern. Actually there are several things that cause this, so you might see if any apply to you. Good thing, most all are "fixable":
    • low testosterone level - particularly happens when taking statin medications, which lower testosterone, but there are other reasons for having low testosterone readings. Penile development can revert to prepubertal status; you might notice a loss/thinning of pubic hair and even shrinkage in testicles as well.
    • plaque in penis arteries is similar to plaque in primary arteries - if you're on any meds for that condition
    • loss of exposure to pheromones through reduced female contact
    • overweightness/excess body fat in lower abdomen area - small pouches of fat develop just under the pubic hair
    • blood pressure pills
    You might find this article very interesting; hits on your condition, I think. Ignore link title ... very misleading.
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  13. Orion Pax

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    You made a valid point.
     
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  14. DeeDeeinCO

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    I guess that we are fortunate in that we do not have to hide our lifestyle. Everyone who knows us knows about our relationship and that I have other lovers. I have had sex with most of the men my husband works with, and have for years now. My husband and I have both always said that when it comes to sex, "That is what other men are for."

    Before I met my husband, I had already been with two men that he was working with and still works with. My husband works for a small firm with 11 other men. Each of the men my husband works with, other than one of them, have been with me and the receptionist at my husband's office several times over.

    My mother-in-law asked me, shortly after me and my husband started dating, if my husband had shared me yet. I was kind of taken back by her question, but I told her that he had shared me. She responded by saying that it was only a matter of time, and that even her own husband had been with my husband's ex-wife numerous times.

    I have also been fortunate to have been able to have sex with my husband's daughter's biological father and his youngest son's biological father. Both of my husband's kid's biological fathers are well built and well hung. It is easy to see why my husband's ex-wife chose to have children fathered by them.

    I have been with more married men than I can count. And what I have discovered is that the married men who fuck around rarely ever have erection problems, or problems lasting, or cumming multiple times. Another thing that I have noticed is that the husbands who allow their wives to fuck around often do have erection problems.

    My husband's oldest son is married to my daughter, and she has Black lovers she sees on the side. Recently my daughter and I were talking and she admitted to me that her husband, my husband's son, has been having a lot of trouble achieving an erection and keeping it long enough to have intercourse, successfully. And he's only 28 years old.

    To me a "real man" is a man who has a strong erection before even removing his pants to fuck me. A "real man" is a man who has the stamina to last long enough for me to get off at least twice. A "real man" is a man that other men want to watch as he fucks another or other women. That is a REAL MAN.

    I believe that once you come to the conclusion that you enjoy watching another man, or other men, fuck your wife, you are giving up your "guy card." Real men want their cock sucked. Real men have big cocks. Real men are the men our husbands look for on Craigslist to fuck us.

    A man's cock gets bigger the more sex he has. I know this to be a fact. A lot of men that I have been fucking for years seem to just get longer and thicker the longer I know them. My main boyfriend could barely last 15 minutes when he and I stated fucking. Six years later he is not only longer and thicker than he used to be, but he lasts as long as I need him to.

    My husband used to be nick named "The Energizer Bunny." Now my husband is smaller than when I met him, and he takes forever to get almost erect, then he cums in seconds. I have noticed that the more men I have been with, the less my husband has been needed, for sex. And with this being the case, the body reacts in unison.

    On the other hand, when me and my husband first got together, he told me that the more men I had sex with, the looser I would get and the more cock I would be able to take. When me and my husband first met, men who had 7" were pretty big. Now I take men who are 9" and bigger with ease.

    The one thing that husbands have to understand is that the more men we have sex with, who have bigger cocks, the more we are going to need bigger cocks to be able to truly enjoy sex. We come to expect men to be bigger cocked and to last long enough to get us off a couple times, at least.

    When I first saw my husband naked, I saw the smallest penis I had ever seen, in real life, but I liked sex with him. Now . . . my husband can't get or keep it up. And I don't really care. I have other men who can and do get and keep it up for me. Again, sex is "what other men are for."
     
  15. rocuck

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    I am happy to see all of the responses to this serious question. MacNfries makes some very good points about the physical things that can make you small and soft. That would be worth looking into Bellaazz if it is a real problem for you. There is the other part of it however. When I first married I was worried about my tiny size and inability to perform. I then found out that my wife was attracted to black men and it went from there. I thought the problem was me but eventually we figured out that the black men just had something extra and that she had married me for things other than sex. It was just a matter of time before she connected with some real men. When this happened I had not expected to have her entire view of things change. It was no longer just sex. It was now about respect. So as she developed respect for some of these men her respect for me lessened. At least in terms of being a man. I think that many white guys would fight something like this but the natural repsonse is to go along. And that is what I did. Once I accepted a lesser status the small size was a plus. It made me part of the solution and not part of the problem. To take it a step further some feminization and all erections stopped. Orgasms of a sort can be had but they are dry and receptive if you know what I mean. And most of all it is mental knowing that your wife is totally free to pursue relationships with some real men and that she is free to quit worrying about sexual needs of her cuckold.

    I think this whole thing comes down to what type of relationship you want. If this is a game that is designed to enhance your sex life that is fine. As long as the black men are ok with it and understand the limitations. In that event size and performance are issues. If it is what I like to call a committed cuckolding relationship small size is great. The smaller and softer the better. Feminization helps. This more extreme relationship is where the focus is on the black man's needs and desires first and the wife's second. The cuckold is support. He has to be because he cannot do the act. I think this can be a turn on if you are able to accept it. It does not mean you are not excited and are not turned on by your wife or other women for that matter. It means your body is telling you to get out of the way for the alpha black men. Bellaazz you may just be in a transitional period where you are trying to figure out how far to go with it. For me embracing it and accepting a lesser role has been the right thing.
     
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  16. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Mac, thanks for your thoughtful serious response. I take this seriously. I have had my testosterone checked & it was normal. I have elevated blood pressure but not on any medication. The norm for me is like 140/80. I'm not on any medication period. My doctor did give me a px for viagra but the cost is outrageous & not covered by insurance. I was going to get it anyway but my wife felt it was a complete waste since she much prefers fucking other men anyway as long as my tongue works. I get her off orally without reciprocation usually 4-5 times a week. Once in a while she will have me masturbate or she will touch me & I will cum almost immediately. However you mentioned loss of pheromones due to reduced female contact. This could be what I'm talking about & I'm going to research it. I used to have full penetrative sex 2-3 times a week before I was married & never had an issue with erection premature ejaculation or size. Now these r all problems & I've shrunk at least an inch or two as I only have female contact once every 3 or 4 months. No full penetrative sex in about 10 months. Thank you very much
     
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  17. Bellaazz

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  18. Bellaazz

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    Dee thanks. It seems your openess has worked tremendously for u and hubby. That would never work for either of us especially with family & friends however your feelings about acceptance of my role does strike home. My wife seems to have accepted it when she tells me not to bother with viagra. I know she's disappointed I'm not a real man as u aptly described in your feelings but she's accepted it, and still loves me & our relationship & gets enough physical contact from my tongue. I must admit eating her to orgasm is by far my favorite sexual activity. I feel extremely confident & know I can perform so there is zero pressure the complete opposite if she wanted intercourse. I've studied read watched videos on pleasing her orally. I am even learning to achieve my own orgasming from just eating her.
     
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  19. Bellaazz

    Bellaazz Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I appreciate your response too. You also seem to conclude I must accept my role. It is evolving but I must feel comfortable in what I see as role. Feminization is not for me or my wife. She doesn't want a woman partner. I may not be able to perform sexually as a real man or have the penis size but I am very much a man in everything else. I am the ceo of a mid size company & make a great salary, I take care of my body working out & running & am considered very handsome & built like a wrestler if I say so myself. So no feminization here. My ex wife needed sex from our neighbor regularly too so it's not just my current wife however she too said I was all man in every other way. Thankd
     
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  20. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Well, Bellaazz, there certainly are a lot of building blocks that you've provided as to your health, your concerns, and your desires for your relationship. I hope others will read your thread and give some "serious" opinions. These kind of posts are most intriguing, and I know there is a solution to your problem. I love puzzles!

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    Best wishes in resolving it!
     
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