Mari, I assume you're referring to the "communication" between us. I am pretty lucky, I think. My wife & I had the opportunity to actually develop a "friendship" with each other before we started dating each other. She had been dating my roommate at school, for a year, and over that time we got to know each other pretty good ... after football game parties, drinking at the pubs, smoking some good hooch, etc. When my roommate broke up with her, she came to me for sympathy and we just started "hanging out". Interestingly, that first night together, my roommate and she had sex, then he broke up with her ... my roommate said later (we're all still friends by the way) that it was kind of a goodbye fuck. Anyways, she and I had a couple beers and got into some "touchy-feelie" and ended up having sex, too. She was initially hesitant about it and told me why she couldn't ... but I convinced her to have sex, and we're been going strong ever since. By the way, my wife is an extrovert as well. Mac