Advice

[mixed relationshipUK]

Hey everyone.

New to this site and wanted some advice. from reading i can see these questions come up all the time however mine is slightly different.

I have been with my Asian girlfriend now for 2 years. We are both in our early 20's and both in good shape. When we first got together like most couples we started by seeing each other and early on she cheated on me on holiday with a black man. (only kissing). Since we got together we dirty talk every (and i mean every) time we fuck about her with different black guys and in particular the guy she cheated on me with. She always cums hard when dirty talking about this and we always talk about her being with different guys when we are not fucking as well.

On a few nights out we have done things where she dances with different guys and kisses them a lot etc and we always fuck really hard after and both love it. We have posted on craigslist before and she has had a lot of fun messaging guys off there but never gone through with actually meeting anyone. She talks dirty, sends pics, gets really turned on thinking about it but never does it. Also talked a lot about going to the black mans fan clubs which she really likes. She wants to meet guys by her self, go to these parties alone and we both love the idea of her having fuck buddies without me being there or watching which i am really into as well.

My question to all you more experienced people is how do we go the final step and make it happen. We are both really into the idea as you can see, we have talked a lot how we will still be together and love each other etc and its just sex and the excitement in that way but finding it hard to make that final step.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance

 

[Mrs.InCharge]

First I would suggest stating that you want this to take place. Let her know your true intentions and just lay it out there.
Second find a local bull via B2W and befriend him.
Third, set up a lunch date with introductions being the only intention. Share information for security checks and discuss condoms, boundaries ect.
Fourth, if all parties are agreed, you set up a hotel meet. Get the room, drinks, lite snacks.
Fifth, let her play and kiss and explore the bull until she is ready for you to depart.
Six, go home.

 

[MacNfries]

.... We are both really into the idea as you can see, we have talked a lot how we will still be together and love each other etc and its just sex and the excitement in that way but finding it hard to make that final step.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thanks in advance

Look, you guys are both young and single and still determining your compatibility together. Just about anything goes with couples like yourselves. The fact that the 2 of you are openingly communicating your desires to each other is actually a good sign to your relationship. She has a curiosity about black men, so you might as well allow her to explore her curiosities, otherwise she very likely will begin to cheat on you. As much as she may tell you that she loves you, she's not made that decision that YOU are the one for her, but you make her happy. As Mrs.In has suggested, set some parameters to these activities and see what happens. You may lose her, but its better for that to happen now, than after the 2 of you have tied the knock. Condoms? That's almost funny ... I doubt you'll find many black guys willing to use condoms, so the better you check them out, first, the better.

As far as finding her someone ... she needs to really do that, not you, and she can't act herself IF you're around, which is why she wants to go it alone. I really suggest you guys pursue "face-to-face" meetings with no sex on the first date. Internet meetings tend to waste a lot of time with all the fakes, plus it helps everyone relax and really have a "talk" rather than feeling the obligation of sex on the first meeting. You might try some swing clubs ... find one near you and attend their hospitality night to meet guests, etc. Usually everyone is fully clothed and relaxed. Possibly let her wear some jewelry or fake tattoos that indicate her interests in black men; it helps them feel more comfortable in approaching her. Here are some sample links to the clubs and jewelry ideas I have ...

http://www.cafepress.com/+cuckold+jewelry
http://www.swinglifestyle.com/swingers/clubs/ (look for the UK locations & visit their webpage)

You're going to get jealous and envious of what happens to her, but then that's part of the enjoyment because once she's back in your arms, the 2 of you will probably fuck like rabbits ...
Good luck ... Mac

 

[mixed relationshipUK]

thank you both for you in depth advise.

Like i said we have talked several times and she is mega keen and up for it but it seems nothing happens. I feel as though she is shy to actually go through with it even though she talks about it all the time and we dirty talk about it literally ever time we fuck. We have been out on holiday and i have been going out alone and she has been chatting to guys on the phone and still didn't go and meet them even after talking about it all day. She ends up watching black on asian porn and playing with her self.

thank you macnfries she isn't looking to go off and break up etc we just like the kinkyness and the excitement of her going off and having fuck buddies and still being with me. It does sound good about the meet where everybody gets to know each other but i think i would have the same issues actually going to that as i would anything else. She brings up black mans fan club parties all the time and has even gone out and bought sexy underwear for it but never sorted it out.

We are mega keen and have a very strong relationship just struggling with the final stages of doing it.

Mrs.incharge you mentioned finding somebody and setting up a lunch date. She would find this very suspicious and obvious as we know each others friends and i would rather be honest about all the stages instead of trying to deceive her in anyway. Thanks for the advise though.

 

[eyespy07]

What's your girl's nationality?

 

[Mrs.InCharge]

thank you both for you in depth advise.

Like i said we have talked several times and she is mega keen and up for it but it seems nothing happens. I feel as though she is shy to actually go through with it even though she talks about it all the time and we dirty talk about it literally ever time we fuck. We have been out on holiday and i have been going out alone and she has been chatting to guys on the phone and still didn't go and meet them even after talking about it all day. She ends up watching black on asian porn and playing with her self.

thank you macnfries she isn't looking to go off and break up etc we just like the kinkyness and the excitement of her going off and having fuck buddies and still being with me. It does sound good about the meet where everybody gets to know each other but i think i would have the same issues actually going to that as i would anything else. She brings up black mans fan club parties all the time and has even gone out and bought sexy underwear for it but never sorted it out.

We are mega keen and have a very strong relationship just struggling with the final stages of doing it.

Mrs.incharge you mentioned finding somebody and setting up a lunch date. She would find this very suspicious and obvious as we know each others friends and i would rather be honest about all the stages instead of trying to deceive her in anyway. Thanks for the advise though.

Oh I meant that she would set up the lunch date with you. Not just you doing it willy nilly

 

[mixed relationshipUK]

Ahh ok thanks. GF is from Thailand.

Yes its getting her to actually go through with it instead of just wanting to do it and talking about it.

 

[Splitter]

Just chill out. One, you're super young. Two, two years isn't that long a time. Rushing it increases the likelihood your relationship breaks down one way or another and you lose her, or vice versa. If it's meant to be it'll be.

One thing that seems to be a common occurrence is that many people here have a hard time separating their sexual kinks/fantasies from reality.

 

[eyespy07]

Ahh ok thanks. GF is from Thailand.

Yes its getting her to actually go through with it instead of just wanting to do it and talking about it.

Oohhhh SE Asian girl? Very nice. If you can pull this off, you two are bound to have some hot adventures.

 

[mixed relationshipUK]

thanks for your advice splitter. We have both had a lot of very different experiences and like i said this has been talked about every time we fucked.

I will take your advice and just let it happen when it happens....just be good if i can 'create' the opportunity for her at some point.

 

[eyespy07]

Does she mind if you post a few sexy pics of her on here so we can peruse?