I meet a lot of black men, and I also have a real life with a family, career, husband, and other obligations. I don't have a lot of time to text back and forth with guys. I simply want to make certain they are adequately communicative, reasonably good looking, nicely endowed, respectful, clean, willing to trust me with their face pics, and match their online info.
I have found that the more the guys text over and over with detailed questions, the more likely they are to flake on their "absolutely will attend" promise. The best guys see some of my pics and accept my invitation with no drama, often driving hours to a place they don't know to meet a couple they don't know, usually with other guys they don't know. Yet they trust, and they come, and then wow do they cum.