i am bisexual and bought same toy today. I hope I can handle it. You are a woman and you don't go that deep with this. i am assuming you didn't use any lube and that's the reason for that? I see you rubbing the dildo on your pussy trying to create some lubrication but maybe that's not enough? Also I believe this dildo is recommended for water based lubricants only. The other type might ruin it? I believe this dildo is 9 or 9.5 inches in insertable length. I do not believe I can fit it all into my bum. I think my bum personally is about 8 or 8.5 inches. I have many other dildos and I know the average length of my anus.